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[Table] I am a professional 20-something who put herself through college doing bondage porn. AMA.
**Verified?** *(This bot cannot verify AMAs just yet)* **Date:** 2012-04-08 **[Link to submission](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/)** (*Has self-text*) **[Link to my post](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/tabledresser/c49trm6)** Questions|Answers :--|:-- [Do you feel the experience has allowed you to explore your sexuality?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49o96k?context=5)|It did! I felt really strong and sexy and beautiful, but more importantly desirable. [Hypothetically speaking how do you think your boyfriend would react?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49o96k?context=5)|We're actually engaged (fixed that in original post), which makes this all the more complicated. When we first started dating, I didn't want to tell him and have him run away. Then it got more serious and it was past the point where I should have told him. Then it was...really really past the point. I have no idea how he'd react. [Most important... Favourite Pokemon? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49o96k?context=5)|Charmander. [At what moment did you realise you were in love with him?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49onwu?context=5)|Ugh man, that sucked. We had a long history and I had been secretly in love with that other guy for years and convinced myself I wasn't. We started fooling around a lot and he introduced me to bondage and encouraged me to model. Think it was when I learned that he was fooling around/doing bondage with someone else that it really broke my heart. She actually ended up modeling for one site i did, though I've never met her. In retrospect, he seems like kind of a jerk. [Do you ever crave that past lifestyle, the feeling of being so "Desired" or would you say you're truly happy with your life right now?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49onwu?context=5)|I feel pretty desired right now, which is great. I have a nice partner in my fiance, who makes me happy, plus a fulfilling career. But part of me is like, dammit, I could be making double or triple my salary if I went back to that. [Keeping it light hearted with... If you could have any superpower, what superpower would it be?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49onwu?context=5)|I would have super strength! [Charmander? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49os0p?context=5)|He asked what my fave pokeman was. [OP, I know you must be done with the AMA, but I think Conors meant when did you realize you were in love with your FIANCEE? Not the dude who fooled around on you...awkward.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49v6aq?context=5)|I changed the original post, where it said I was hopelessly in love with the jerk who encouraged me to model. Hence the weird looking answer. |I knew I was in love with my fiancé within a month of dating him. Just had the strongest connection from the moment I met him. [Did it hurt at all? Any funny stories?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pf4r?context=5)|It hurt in a good way, though sometimes it was really difficult if I was in a challenging position. I always try to push myself to do something crazier and more flexible, which can be hard on your body. |My favorite funniest moment was during a video shoot with this one dominatrix. My whole "thing" is that I was really cute and innocent, so I usually was the submissive one. We did a short video series with a domme who put me in leather and started lacing me into this wooden board thing. Somehow she tied my hands so it looked like I was doing a vulcan salute...to which I started cracking corny corny jokes, like "set phasers to tickle" and she looked at the camera and said "Wil Wheaton, I hope you see this and get horny" and we kept making Star Trek puns for about 10 minutes instead of being sexy. |I don't think that video made it as one of the featured ones on the site, but at least we have a sense of humor. ;) [Oh god I hope he reads this. They say if you say his name three times he appears. Wil Wheaton. Wil Wheaton. Wil Wheaton.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pszj?context=5)|WHEEEEAAAATOOOOONNNN. [Did you do any nude shots?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49on71?context=5)|No nude shots, which was the best part. I loved that I could do all this work and then not have to get naked. I did work in panties though. [Are you worried someone in your professional life will find out and try to blackmail you?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49on71?context=5)|I do worry about my professional life and personal life but it's been four years and nothing has happened. And I'd never cheat on my fiance, certainly not for blackmail. [That's a surprisingly large amount of money (at least, to me). do you know other models and what they make for doing approximately what you do?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49osrz?context=5)|I honestly have no idea! I read online that actresses (female only) in california make an average of $900 per scene, but that's sexual intercourse with a guy. I'm guessing the bondage industry pays much more in general. I wasn't the best negotiator on price and didn't really know what I was doing, but I think the price I got paid was pretty fair plus it was a huge amount of money to a college student. [Was intercourse invovled?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49o5wp?context=5)|No intercourse was involved, just soft core activities. You had the option of being nude, in stockings, in bra/panties or cute, though slutty, clothing. [Were you paid differing amounts for how much skin was showing?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49qwfh?context=5)|I was paid different amounts for the type of shoot. A solo shoot earned more, surprisingly, because I could do more different types of poses and restraints in one day and their audience tends to like solo shoots better. Girls who were nude got a bit more, but it was really your choice. Nobody really forced anything on you. There was only one time I did something I wasn't in to. [Turns out I shall be the one to ask, "what was it?"](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49sz5e?context=5)|A foot fetish scene. It was awful. Neither of us were into it and I had to go on for like 20 minutes pretending like I was super turned on by feet. Putting those acting skills to work. It was actually the last thing I ever did. [Ew, feet are gross. Why did you accept in the first place? I think you said you could chose which scene to do. (Foot fetishists out there don't get me wrong, you're probably wonderful people)](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49t2q0?context=5)|You could choose your scenes to an extent, but it was still a job and you still had a boss telling you what to do. I chose not to be nude or do anything explicitly sexual with a partner model, but beyond that you didn't have a huge amount of control. It was at the end of a long long day of shooting and the producer wanted to get one last scene in before we went home. I wasn't happy about it at all and neither was the other model. I guess I could have said "no, absolutely not" but I'd never done a scene like that before and wasn't sure what it would be like (i.e. awful and that i hated it) until it was actually happening. [How big of a part of your life was it besides work? Was it just something to pay the bills or is it something you looked into and cared about outside of a work mentality?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49om62?context=5)|It was both, really. I needed the money very badly and couldn't afford to pay for school and set up my life without those big checks. |But it was also something I really enjoyed doing at least for a little while. Like I said, it was partially because I was trying to impress a guy and get him to want me. stupid stupid stupid. at the very least, it got me interested in the craft of rope tying. I can still appreciate a good knot or beautifully done Kinbaku. I spent a lot of time reading about knots and tying and positions in order to be a better participant. [No matter what you choose to do or what happens I wish you luck! You seem to be a very kind person who deserves to have things go right!](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49qxdd?context=5)|That's really sweet of you. [Any advice for a girl interested in getting involved in the business? Like how to get started and any overall tips?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49r3jk?context=5)|Don't. Well, first I'd tell you to think about the decision for a long time. Once it's done, you can't go back and no matter how much you beg, those photos aren't leaving the Internet, ever. Think about whether you'd be ok sharing this with your mate, or potential future mates, and whether you can handle the consequences. Think about how much money you'll actually make and if it will be enough. Think about what you will and won't do, and where you'll draw the line. |That said, if you're really into it, you should already have a moderate/high level of interest in bondage. Figure out what you do like and play around with it, whether that's intricate rope tying, restraints, specific positions or something a bit more hardcore. Get someone to take photos of you or take some photos yourself with a remote shutter if you don't have a partner who will take them for you. |Look around and find websites that you like, then just contact them with a cover letter and some examples, just like any other job. That's how I did it. I can PM you more recommendations, but I don't want to publish the name of the site I worked for in the thread. [I've often wondered, what happens if there's a fire... Like, BAM the building is on fire, and you're all tied up to a post / board / whatever ... Did the people you worked with have a pair of cable cutters handy? Would they just lug you out of the building board, gag ball and all, for all to see?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49podg?context=5)|Oh god, that's a pretty terrifying thought. Not something I ever thought about before, but there were scissors handy on set in case something went wrong and we needed to be cut out of our ropes or tape (usually due to loss of circulation or something). Can't imagine what would happen if someone was strapped to a piece of equipment though, especially with all the locks and leather straps or chains. [Did you enjoy it? Any proof? Can we see?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49o93l?context=5)|I did enjoy it and still like to do a little light bondage on my own time. I can message proof to the mods, but I'm not sure I'm allowed to post their photos here since it's a paid site. [I read the entire title thinking "this sounds boring and stupid", then I hit the word bondage, and fuckin clicked so hard. ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pj8i?context=5)|$800-1,000 a day depending on the shoot. [So, sorry if its been asked, but what kind of money did it pay?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pj8i?context=5)|It's the craziest thing I've ever done. [I don't know if I could give up a job like that. I mean, thats drug dealing money, without the threat of some 6 foot 4 swat member kicking your door in and beating your ass off the books.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pzvx?context=5)|I make less money now using my stupid degree. [Kinda confused. What was the most hardcore thing you did? You mention that you weren't even nude, right? Can you give an example ?(not necessarily you but similar videos)](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49qvu7?context=5)|I did lots of work in stockings and vinyl body suits or leather corsets/specialty items. It was more about tickling and teasing that spanking and punishment. My favorite was doing rope bondage and getting hogtied. I did a cool suspension scene where I was teased with a Hitachi wand, that's probably the most intense. There was also a scene where I got to be dominant and locked another girl inside a cage. |**edit** I found something on r/bondage that's a good example, except our production values were higher and I would be wearing panties or stocking in a photo like this and the corset would be leather: [Link to gaggedutopia.tumblr.com](http://gaggedutopia.tumblr.com/post/18647227866/a6m6y6-vs-the-corset-orgasms-amy-sat-before-me) [Can you pm me picture of you on the set? I'm more curious now(only if you are comfortable...)](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49t5l6?context=5)|I posted a photo in the thread yesterday, then deleted it after all the weird/mean messages started coming it. Just got freaked out. Someone else reposted it as a comment, so I guess it doesn't matter. Here you go: [Link to i.imgur.com](http://i.imgur.com/sVGvr.jpg) |Update: did some browsing and the photo I linked in the comment above (the tumblr one) is from one of the websites I modeled for. Don't know why I didn't recognize the red room! [Wow, I can see what you meant when you said it was challenging to get into some of those positions. Did it take a lot of time to change into clothing/feitish gear like that? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49txpw?context=5)|I did take a pretty long time, depending on the outfit or set. They're fun though! My favorite were the domme boots, which took forever to lace up but made me feel like the most powerful woman in the world. [How did you get into the business? and did you make many contacts?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49on0d?context=5)|I started contacting online publishers to see if they needed new models. Found a small group of indie websites that had a great feel and attitude, so I ended up modeling for three of their niche sites. The bondage world seems pretty small from what I gather, and they knew a few people from my hometown (roughly 6 hours from them) who made custom leather corsets and stuff. [Were you in a Master/slave relationship with your ex, also?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rwci?context=5)|Everyone in this thread has made me realize just how much of a jerk my ex was! We weren't in a M/S relationship for a long time, but it got to that point eventually. He's the one who introduced me to bondage, which started out just with some stupid fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold and moved to ballgags and getting roped to the coffee table. [...was your scene name "Puppet?" ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rwci?context=5)|I think now, I'd probably dominate the hell out of him and make him pay. [Do you ever plan/want to tell your fiance?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pfv2?context=5)|Absolutely. Hopefully soon. Talking this out in the thread helped. [Go for it, Im sure he won't freak out about it. It's not like you were a whore. You were a model.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pse1?context=5)|Can't tell if sarcastic...or being nice to me.... [What is your degree?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49oddi?context=5)|MA in Advertising/Marketing. [Are you Cameron Diaz ?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49sufp?context=5)|YES HOW DID YOU KNOW. [Because I fapped to you several times.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49t0vx?context=5)|That got weird. [You did bondage porn believing people are watching it with their family during thanksgiving ?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49t4i4?context=5)| |Dammit. |In my head, I'm going to just continue thinking people are looking at the site because they like our outfits. Just a whole bunch of people paying $20 a month because they think costume design is great. [It would suck if you didn't tell the fiance and someone in public recognized you "hey betty, can i tie you up?"](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49pym2?context=5)|Obvious response: ew get away from me you weirdo homeless person, what are you talking about *walks away quickly* [Is your fiance into that sort of thing? If so, do you think it is likely that he will stumble across the photos of you on his own?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ofoa?context=5)|He's not really into it, more into the typical 'lesbians, threesomes and big tits' kinda porn. Just a typical guy. |I'd never heard of the websites before and it's not one of the big ones (like kink.com) or likely to wind up on youporn or something. [Kink.com](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49qkj2?context=5)|Kink freaks me out so much. I much prefer seeing pretty rope and gorgeous intricate ties, some tickling, people who look like their having a good time, than some poor girl who is screaming for her life and being electro shocked. It's just not for me. [*shudders* I swear, I think they get off on breaking their own rules sometimes. Maybe I'm just overly cynical. Also, I expected more ROPE on a site with the word BOUND in it... Grrr...](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49qkj2?context=5)| [Hypothetically the situation came to point where you were really strapped for money again, would you do it again? This is assuming your fiance is ok with it.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49t5j6?context=5)|If he was ok with it, I would do it again next weekend. We could use that kind of money and my career isn't paying very much. |The thing is, I bet he *would* be ok with it, as long as he could accompany me to the set. I'm just scared. [Do you parents have any idea of this or have you kept his a secret from them? Do any of your close friends know? If your parents do know, what was their reaction? If they don't know, what do you think their reaction would be if they found out?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49oxn8?context=5)|Only one person knows, prior to this AMA. I've never spoken about it to anyone except the guy who urged me to do it and we don't really talk anymore. [How did you break into the business? I know you said you did it because that guy (he sounds like a total douche) wanted you to, but is it really as easy as just deciding to do bondage?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ppvi?context=5)|It was easy enough for me to do, though I'm sure more professional people have a hard time. This isn't my chosen career, just something I did during college in between classes and stuff. I basically looked around for the right kind of website that would work for me, contacted the publishers, sent them a few photos of my face and body and told them about my experience and interest in the craft. It was surprisingly easy to do. [Has anyone ever recognized you in "real life"? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49oit4?context=5)|Not that I know of! [Do you have a fetlife profile?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49os2b?context=5)|No fetlife profile. [What will you do if your fiance finds out?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49os2b?context=5)|I guess I'll just deal with the consequences and hope he's understanding. I never meant to keep it a secret for so long. [How long ago did you do the modeling? Can girls still make money doing this, or has pay dropped?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ule7?context=5)|It was several years ago at this point. From what I understand, the money is about the same. [What were your work hours like? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49oo4y?context=5)|I would work over one day or a two-day thing, between 4-8 hours a day. [How would you react if your soon to be husband told you he did gay porn? Has he ever asked how you paid for college? Are there any men who get paid just to be tied up and not the other stuff?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49tycq?context=5)|I would still love him, no matter what. And I'd probably be turned on by the idea that he did that, though a little weirded out he didn't tell me. He has an ass fetish, so it'd be kinda believable. |He never asked how I paid for college, but knows I worked many different jobs and was really stressed out all the time trying to get good grades and handle my finances. |The company actually has a side project where you can pay a dominatrix for private sessions. [Personally, keeping secrets is the big issue. Getting married is a big commitment, and communication & honesty are big parts of the relationship. Sounds like OP will tell him soon, so everything will likely be ok.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rtat?context=5)|It is a huge commitment and I'm 100% excited and committed to making it work. [The worst case scenarios for the guy is finding out AFTER the commitment of marriage has been made, or worse finding out from another person.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rtat?context=5)|As I've explained elsewhere in the thread, it wasn't that I ever set out to lie to him about it. And I haven't ever explicitly lied. But I just wasn't able to bring myself to tell him when we first started dating, just like you don't tell a someone on a first date about who you slept with in high school. But then we got really into each other really fast and it got to the point where it was weird I hadn't told him and before I knew it, it had been a few years. [Bondage porn with no intercourse or nudity? I think most guys wouldn't call that a deal-breaker.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rtat?context=5)|Blah. [Any accessories/positions/situations you liked especially much, or maybe even was your "specialty"?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49v2j5?context=5)|I loved the session with the photo I posted elsewhere in the thread. It was really unusual and sexy, in a weird way. It was also the most helpless I ever felt, being strapped to a board, covered in tape, wearing leather, my legs chained up in the air and with a Hitachi wand dangling over my pussy. Hot. |My "specialty" was just that I was a friendly, flirty, genuinely nice little sub who loved being dominated. The producer and other models had lots of fun teasing me. [Does your body have any scars from the bondages?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49vh8h?context=5)|Not from the professional shoots. I had some bruising once from rope used in my private time, but that went away. Professionally, they were very careful and gentle and used tape or some other wrappings on my hands that gave the illusion I was being strapped really tightly or had duct tape on my bare skin, but I actually didn't. [Had you ever done anything with bondage before the modeling or was it completely uncharted territory for you?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49zy4o?context=5)|I had played around in the bedroom with it for a few months before contacting the websites. It was really fun in private, so why not get paid? I don't really do it anymore. [How uncomfortable are those costumes? I get that the intention is discomfort but even just a latex/spandex body suit seems beyond uncomfortable.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49zy4o?context=5)|The latex was sexy and made weird squeaking noises. I had the hardest time figuring out what kind of undergarments to wear, though. In my "normal life" I'm a really conservative dresser, so even the idea of wearing just stockings/tights was a new one. I loved wearing a leather corset too, that was new. All of these costumes took a long time to get into and it made me appreciate the people who actually made them -- so much detail! [At the rate tuition costs rise.... pretty soon I'll have to do something extreme too. Any suggestions? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ug5b?context=5)|Don't study communications. That's my best suggestion. [I like how people who do softcore bondage shoots are so timid and scared of telling anyone, but the girls I know who do hardcore bondage shoots don't even care... and I just find it ironic. Why does talking to your friends about your softcore bondage photography scare you so much? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49vfeu?context=5)|Funny, right? I just don't want my friends to judge me, I guess. I'm actually a pretty wholesome person, otherwise. [Yup. If I was the fiancee, that would be the most hurtful part of this AMA. pics and not mentioning it can be an issue...but loving another guy more than me?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49x2mb?context=5)|No, I love my fiance with all my heart. I just feel really weird and uncomfortable talking about him on Reddit. I can talk about the other guy because he's an asshole and it's in the distant past and he means nothing to me now. But it's relevant because he's the one who pressured/encouraged me to do bondage in the first place. |I don't want to reveal too much about my partner because that's something I want to keep safe and to myself. [Are you my ex?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c4aegur?context=5)|If I am, this AMA just got a whole lot more interesting. [How long after you broke things off with this guy did you continue modeling? Being as vague as possible, what kind of work do you do now?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49wffh?context=5)|I broke it off with that guy at the same time I stopped modeling. I realized I was being used. Soon after, he got a girlfriend who later modeled for the same sites I did. Lame. |But luckily, for me, I soon met someone who truly loves me. [I don't know if this has been asked already, but I'm kinda curious about this. Compared to women doing that line of work, how many guys were doing that work? Do you think it was more prevalent, or easier, for women to get into that line of work compared to guys?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ud42?context=5)|The sites I worked for hired no men whatsoever. I actually really loved that it was an all-ladies environment. The company is even pretty feminist minded and friendly. |Not sure if there are similar sites for guys or gay BDSM. [I guess that makes it a lot more of a comfortable environment, did you find it that way? ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c4abov7?context=5)|Absolutely! It was a very very comfortable environment. The more I think about it, the more I wish I could legitimately do this all the time and not feel bad about it. [Username relevant?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49vopb?context=5)|Dur, I made it just to post this. ;) [Do you do any bondage with your fiance now?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ulxp?context=5)|Nope. [As a guy this would bother me more than the modelling. Being freaky on camera I could get over, but it would really bug me that you were freaky before but not with me.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c4a9d2a?context=5)|We are certainly "freaky" in other ways, but he's just not into bondage. Not his thing, so I don't bother. [Just came from that thread, this is sunshine and butterflies!](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49oywm?context=5)|And handcuffs! [After going from the necro thread to this, everything you did was completely normal and dignifiable.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ooww?context=5)|Hahaha thank you very much. I read about three sentences in that thread and wanted to run far far away. [Although this thread is knot for everyone, we know where it's bound to go.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49oae1?context=5)|It's a tangled tale. [Lickitung uses lick. It's super effective.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rmc9?context=5)|See, I thought that would be too easy of an answer. He said *favourite* Pokemon, not one that would get most upvotes. Charmander is just really cute, IMO. [Well at least now we know you aren't a *karma* whore. ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ubhl?context=5)|Hahaha, no I guess not. If I was a karma whore, I'd have posted all the photos. [ boom goes your inbox.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49p63g?context=5)|No PMs, actually. **Edit:** oh there they are. And they were not nice. [People aren't paying.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49s0sd?context=5)|Yeah they definitely are. For that website at least. Me, personally, I'd never pay to watch porn when I can just find it for free. [Yeah, and you did it before he was in the picture, so it doesn't count. ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rv22?context=5)|> quoted text Don't feel bound to anything, though. Eyyyy. Anyway, thank you for this. Yes it was before he came into the picture and when we first started dating it was like "why bring that up?" plus it wasn't that big of a deal to me at the time. I looked at it like a job I had to do to pay for school, among other crappy jobs like waitressing and selling newspapers. I wasn't even expecting our relationship to get so serious as quickly as it did, and by the time I realized how serious we were it became a matter of "oh shit why didn't I tell him" and "oh shit I should have told him by now" and the "now it's not a matter of *what* I did but that it's been several years oh shit oh shit panic attack" Does that explain it? [I'll bet he'll think you're awesome and then ask to re-enact a few scenes. Don't feel bound to anything, though. ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rv22?context=5)| [Link to i.imgur.com.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49qh33?context=5)|Yes, that's the photo I posted earlier but deleted. People were starting to send me really creepy and not nice private messages and it freaked me out. Plus there were a few mean comments in there (thanks to those who downvoted them). [As with everywhere, there are assholes on reddit too. Thanks for the AMA though!](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49t3vq?context=5)|Thanks, I need to get a thicker skin I guess. I'm not really a Reddit person, so it's confusing to me when people send private messages just to be nasty and threatening. [At anytime, did it hurt. Were you able to "stop" the shoot if something was uncomfortable.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49ow3v?context=5)|Oh yes absolutely. If anything hurts in a bad way or goes wrong, whether that's a cramp or a panic attack or losing circulation, everything would stop immediately. Though that rarely happened. [You are quite beautiful! I would love to see more! (If you're comfortable sharing) I am a seasoned fan of bondage and I am impressed!](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49oohh?context=5)|Thank you! Can't post any more, but I'm glad you enjoy. [How do u tell when the mod approves ](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49og9l?context=5)|Working on verifying it with a mod right now. [ i am i guy who wishes jasmine would wear a black leather jackettes on stage! jasmine aladdin! and im 38 and i still think shes hot! period!](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49o6t2?context=5)|Um, what? [Yep. pretty sure I would. Actually, really sure. Nope, let's say definitely. That's just me. I have standards. Plenty of other chicks out there that weren't in porno.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49q7rg?context=5)|You have standards, that's great. So do I. Reading an AMA about a job I did to pay for college doesn't give you insight into the rest of my life, what I'm like as a person or my loving relationship. |I have standards too. Enjoy your perfect girlfriend who's never done anything questionable in her past life. [This has the makings of any romantic comedy. At least it's not being self-conscious about having a heart transplant[Return to Me] or lying about how you're related to the family to get with someone[Wedding Crashers].](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49rk7i?context=5)|This would make a really awesome romcom...but only if the main characters ended up together in the end. At least that's how I feel. :) [You dont know your own age?? Why say "20-something"?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49vui7?context=5)|To be vague about details and avoid being found out. And "twenty-something" is a pretty common term. [Do you always refer to yourself in the first and third person in one sentence? Edit: Once again Reddit fails to see the irony in AMA and down-voting a question.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49t6oj?context=5)|Grammar is not my strong suit [Can we really trust the mods? I think some public proof is in order.](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49p2jm?context=5)|I already posted a photo in the thread, but aside from giving you the password for the website or posting a photo of my face (can't for various reasons) that's all I can do. Sorry :/ [Exactly how much did you sell your dignity for?](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/rylqd/i_am_a_professional_20something_who_put_herself/c49q6ef?context=5)|You might not agree with what I did, but I'm not a bad person and reading an AMA about a part-time job I had in college doesn't give you insight into my dignity or life. |Thanks to those who downvoted this. *Last updated: 2012-04-12 08:49 UTC* *This post was generated by a robot! Send all complaints to [epsy](/message/compose/?to=epsy).* more