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[COPY] How can I ever expect to raise a child to know my beliefs when my beliefs are perpetually under attack.
Below is a copy of [this post](http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/t0aq3/how_can_i_ever_expect_to_raise_a_child_to_know_my/) by [campycapper](http://www.reddit.com/user/campycapper) at 2012-04-30 20:28:29 UTC, as read at 2012-04-30 20:30:10 UTC. **THIS IS NOT THE ORIGINAL POST. PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT IN THIS THREAD.** ----- ----- I posted this in Rant, then thought it would be better suited for this group. I am not looking for any real answers just wanted to express a bit of anger at my fears of having a child anytime soon. I believe in the equality of men and women in all sections of society. A removal of all unequal practices, is what I would like to strive for. I am reminded of a story from my childhood, or better to call it a memory. When I was an early teenager my father imprinted on me the importance of being a good man, though I did not know exactly what that meant. (I still do not by the way) I had an excellent example in him, he had his failing, but the important part was that he strove to better himself. He accomplished or worked on this by being a good man through godliness. As a good father he wanted me to hold his values so he took me to a Promise Keepers rally, I recall it vividly, we drove there in the van. Now for those of you unfamiliar with promise keepers it is a men's group based on the idea of that to be a good man you most honor god and family, and participate in the bettering of yourself. This is a group that anyone should be proud of, and happy to participate in. (Maybe not those against Christianity) The core ideas really do well to spell out that goodness is key to being a man, their core values, "Promise Keepers is a Christ-centered organization dedicated to motivating men to influence their world through a relationship with Jesus Christ. The key to Promise Keepers are individual men keeping their promises in the context of their family, church and community. Promise Keepers is dedicated to calling men into the ongoing process of godliness. When we reach men, we reach families." I do not recall much of the actual event, I was too young, it was too long, and I just couldn't be bothered at that age to pay attention. Through the event two items have stuck with me my entire life. 1. That a man would strive to better himself by keeping his promises to those he loves and this was shown by my own father, a man who I admittedly have idolized most of my life. 2. That outside this event there were protestors, female protestors. As a teenager (age 12 or so) I could not understand why they would be protesting something like this. Surely if you significant other is wanting to better himself by treating you better than you should let him go and allow him to learn how. It has now been many, many years later and honestly this still makes no since to me. Instead of promise keepers these same groups are protesting Men's rights groups. (probably still Promise keepers as well) I want to have a son, and I want to imprint on him as my father did with me the importance of being a good man. But how can I even begin going about that as my ideas of a good man are so different than the education I was given. I believe men should not be forced into a lifetime of service to other members of the society based on their sexual reproductive organs. I am sorry it is not my "privilege" to have to die for you. People speak of these privileges that I get by my genetic make up, that does not take into account any of my own history. How could I raise a kid to believe that he is genetically privileged even though he is going to be socially crushed most of his life based on his own masculinity. I do not base my idea of being a good man on a religious doctrine, though it has been influenced by my religious upbringing, and I do not base it on my own testosterone levels. This is really beginning to bother me. more